How to help a friend and her daughter?
I'm asking for advice for a friend.
Girlfriend 37 years old, lives with a guy,relationship is serious. She hasdaughter is 17 years old, daughter has not lived with her mother for 8 years, but lives with her grandmother (friend's mom ). The father of this girl from the very birth did not participate in her life. And this girl started dating a guy, he is 18 years old. He dropped out of school from the 10th grade, is not going to the army, his parents are wealthy, they support him and do not refuse anything - from the latest iPhones to the most expensive things. His father is some kind of criminal element. Herselfgirlfriend and her mother do not know his parents, but for example, they, together with the girl's boyfriend (without his parents) can go to barbecue.
Everything would be fine, but then the other day the grandmother saw the correspondence on the girl’s computer with her boyfriend and realized that he controls her, is jealous of everyone, calls names and stuff like that. The girl, in response, apologizes, says that she will behave as he likes. It is not known there, maybe he is already overpaying for it, no one knows test-antibiotic.com.
What to do? How to get her away from him? The fact is that a friend is very afraid of this guy and his father. I offered to talk to his parents, they say, we see that your son is overdoing it, and that they somehow influenced his behavior. But a friend says that it would be better if she sends her daughter to dad for weeks in Italy to visit a relative. But whether such a decision will help in such a situation, I doubt it.
Seeking advice from the Stranger, Agnes and other readers of this forum write what you think about this. I also have an 11 year old son. There may be a similar situation. I'm not well versed in such matters. I always try to find a compromise, to talk. But in such cases it may beharm . And I honestly worry about this family, the girl is very good and she is the only one they have.
I would like to thank everyone for any comment.
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