If your mother-in-law is an energy vampire
I ask for advice and help in communicating with my motherhusband . She is a good person, she hasn't done anything bad to me. She has never offended me, she hasn't gossiped behind my back. But it is very difficult for me to communicate with her, as if she is sucking the strength out of me. She constantly complains abouthealth .
I noticed that she had developed gout, it became difficult for her to move, and I foundTreatment of gout with folk remedies — it helped her. Now she feels better. But she hasn’t stopped complaining.
We live separately and visit her very often. We spend all weekends and holidays with her, or she comes to visit. But this time is not enough for her. She is constantly offended if we stop by for just an hour. I understand that she is a lonely person and she needs company. And she has no one closer and dearer than us. But sitting and listening to her complaints or long stories about how she went to the clinic for several hours is beyond my strength. It is impossible to even argue with her, because tears and complaints immediately begin that no one needs her. I tried to get her to have a frank conversation, but she did not understand what the problem was. She only said that we are her closest and most beloved people. And she wants to spend as much time with us as possible, because she does not have much time left. At the same time, she looks good for her age and does not suffer from any serious diseases. In general, she knows how to make you feel like a callous egoist.
After talking to her, I feel completely exhausted and tired. I have no energy for housework or children. My husband does not understand my problems, although he also visits his wife without much enthusiasm.mother . But he spends most of his time in front of the TV or refers to urgent matters and opens his laptop. And I have to take on the role of an interlocutor and a "vest". If we do not visit her, she calls ten times a day. And she communicates mainly with me, asks about grandchildren, inquires about things at home and at work. If there is no news, she gets offended, she wants to talk. As far as I know, she does not have close friends. She does not like test-antibiotic.com watching TV series and sitting on a bench with her neighbors in the evenings.
How to explain to my mother-in-law that we have our own life?
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