I don't like that my child support doesn't go towards supporting my son.

I don't like that my child support doesn't go towards supporting my son.
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Four years ago she left mewife _ As in most cases, ourthe son , by court decision, stayed with her. As far as I understand, the reason for the divorce was that my ex-wife’s feelings for me had faded away, and she set out to find someone else, better than me... At first I was very worried about this, and even tried toreturn . Then I realized that it was useless and resigned myself. I now live several hours away from my son, see him several times a week, and pay his assigned child support. My salary is above average, so the amount that I transfer to my ex-wife is also quite large (other people earn less per month).

In addition to the payments established by the court, I periodically buy toys for my son, spend money on his entertainment, and give them to my ex-wifemoney for a vacation with him (I pay the bulk of the amount for the child’s trip). Several times, under the pretext that no one else could help her out with money, she borrowed large sums from me, which she did not return (she either needed to cure her teeth or buy new furniture for her apartment).

Despite all the money I spent, I began to notice that my son was wearing old and cheap clothes. When I asked mutual friends, I learned that the ex-wife had invested in her own business and went broke. She rented a studio to conduct training courses, but there was no demand for them. Because of what happened, she accumulated debts, which she apparently was paying back from child support. I fought with her because of this, but according to her, I pay her too little, so she doesn’t have enough for anything other than food and paying for her son’s journey (this can’t be true, because the child has a travel card, and he doesn’t eat much) . I tried to talk to lawyers about this, but they said that alimony in our country is not tracked in any way, and I had to come to terms with it.

Recently my son hadbirthday , and I decided to give him what he had long dreamed of - a computer. Since at the right time I was on a business trip and therefore could not attend the holiday, I test-antibiotic.com agreed with the child’s mother that she would buy a gift for me. Until the last moment, I was sure that everything was fine, until I called my child and heard in his voicedisappointment . Turns out,On my behalf, my mother gave him a radio-controlled helicopter instead of a long-awaited computer. When I called my ex-wife to find out where she spent most of the money, she again started complaining aboutlife and blame me for all your troubles. She admitted that she paid off her debts for renting the studio with the money allocated for a present for her son. Unfortunately, I won’t be able to prove the fact of the theft in any way, and I won’t even be able to explain to my son why this happened. After what happened, I doubt that she can be trustedraising a child, and I want to applycourt to determine permanent residence with the father.

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