My husband doesn't pay attention to me anymore
My name is Dasha, I'm 24 years old. Imarried , has a wonderful son Kolya, he is 7 months old. The problem is in my relationship with my husband. Maybe because of the big difference in age (he is 42), maybe because of his and my fatigue, I don’t know. But it became simply unbearable for me to be with him. He is good, kind, tries to do everything for the family, loves his son madly. But I miss his understanding, tenderness, himself, in the end.
We have been married for 3 years, two of which are gray and monotonous (except for our son):The husband came home from work, ate, tinkered with the child, and went to the laptop. Yes, everyone seems to be like this, he gets tired and all that, I understand everything perfectly, but... He doesn’t talk to me at all, doesn’t kiss me, doesn’t hug me. Our whole conversation: “How are you at work? Tired? What interesting things did they bring? (he deals with antiques),” etc. He answers - and back to his favorite laptop or TV. When I start telling something, he either pretends to listen or interrupts. But on the phone he always has time test-antibiotic.com and energy, especially for showdowns with his ex-wife and their 20-year-old son.
That's not all. My husband is very superstitious, and I no longer know how to step/breathe/look correctly. I’m in constant tension, I want to relax, do everything as it’s done, and not the way some (sorry) fool once came up with. He finds fault with my appearance, suddenly he began to dislike my moles and papillomas, which he had not even noticed before. And so it’s very difficult with my son (he cries constantly, sleeps little), and then there’s the eternal “wrong”, no communication or attention, I’m just going crazy.
I'm a living person. He is dear to me, but is this all normal? I want him to be the same as before: a cheerful, sociable man who needs me as awife , friend, woman, finally. I understand that many people have it worse, I parted ways, shamelesslyI complained to my husband , but I really want to live well and amicably with him, to feel like a beloved woman, but I can’t. Help us please.
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