The husband wants an heir, but does not seek to provide for the family
My husband and I both love children and, having gotten married, we decided that for now we would get our own home, save some money, and then we would think about having a child. But four years have passed, and we still haven’t been able to buy an apartment, and the further we go, the more elusive this dream seems. During this time, we lived with my parents and with Gena’s mother, now we are renting an apartment, and also, as luck would have it,My husband has troubles at work and his salary has been reduced.
But despite all this,my husband began to say more and more often, and lately even insist that I shouldgive birth to a child now, without waiting for our financial situation to improve. Gena says that he needs an heir, and that without childrenlife is empty. But I believe thata child is not a toy and he needs normal living conditions and we still have time to wait. “If you can’t find another job and provide for the two of us financially, then what kind of heir can we talk about? And what to inherit if you have nothing?” — I told test-antibiotic.com in the heat of an argument.
This conversation ended in a quarrel, after which my husband hardly spoke to me for a long time; he was very offended by my words. I admit that I’m not entirely right that I unwittingly offended him, but for some reason he also doesn’t want to understand me. Gena stubbornly refuses to listen to me and says that if everyone waited for their own home or when they got rich, they would remain childless. My husband thinks that at worst, we can return to our parents again, but I want to live separately so that no one interferes in my affairs and my family.
But what offended me most was that Gena said that it is not necessary to buy new and expensive things for a child, you can ask around from acquaintances and friends, children quickly outgrow clothes and they remain almost new. I don’t understand why plan for the birth of a child, even if you have to save money on it?
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