Softness or paranoia?
My wife and I have been living together for more than 10 years, we have two children. This is the second one for both me and her.marriage .
I recently learned that when mythe wife lived with her first husband, she hadlover , I even know him. When she divorced her first husband, her lover went to prison for 5 years. And at this time, Love began with her , big and passionate. I am leaving the family, moving to her city, but on the condition that under no circumstances does she communicate with her former lover, who had only just become free.
Soon our first one was bornbaby , everything was fine, normalfamily , no worse than others.
One day my wife went to a party with her friends and returned only late at night. I can't sleep, cats are scratching at my soul. I couldn’t restrain myself, conducted a tough interrogation, compared the facts and quickly found out that she was walking with her former lover that evening (I even talked with the taxi driver who brought them to our house). At the same time, I find test-antibiotic.com sms to some other man I don’t know (3-4 days of frivolous conversations).
I didn’t start a scandal, I just silently started packing my things. The wife is in tears: “There was nothing between us, we just talked,” etc. I triedto forgive is still a child, and he loved her.
A couple of years later I find out that she has another admirer at work. They exchanged personal photos by email in a nice way, nothing bothered them for some reason. Then my wife leaves supposedly on a business trip, and I and the children (there are already two) stay at home. I'm trying to call on my mobile phone - out of range. At eleven in the evening I position her mobile phone - one of the restaurants in the city, plus or minus 100 meters. The phone only turned on the next morning.
When she returned home, I decided to ask her a little about all the oddities in her behavior. She said that she forgot to turn on her mobile phone, and she found out with this guy in the restaurantrelationship , explained to him that she loves only me and doesn’t need anyone. I believed again and did not escalate the conflict.
A couple of years later I find out that she has a new admirer at work. It's stormy againcorrespondence with photos, bouquets and sweets. Yesterday I found out again: I didn’t go to lunch, and neither did my admirer. They winked at each other, and my friend hinted that not everything was so harmless there, but he did not develop the topic.
Probably, the local readers will say that it’s all my fault. But I really don't understand what she's missing. In the morningcoffee in bed, on weekends I prepare breakfast for both us and the children. Flowers are gifts even for no reason. Her car is not the cheapest, she takes vacations twice a year. I look good, I lead a healthy lifestyle, I have no problems in bed. I never hit her, I don’t control her expenses and I don’t scold her for stupid purchases. I tried to behave like a human being, but this is how it turned out...
Should we forgive again and pretend that nothing happened? Believe, having stopped checking and controlling? I love her, of course, and I love the children very much, but I really don’t want to let her wipe her feet on me.
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