Daughter-in-law from a bad family, so I worry about raising my grandchildren
Mydaughter-in- lawa girl from a plebeian family, I can’t name this family in any other way. Hermother is a “master of cleaning service”, or rather, a cleaner, washes entrances. No, I have nothing against such professions, only she believes that free time is more important for her, and not the penny salary itself. And what, I went in the morning, washed and the whole day is free. The stepfather is an alcoholic, he does not particularly want to work, he is interrupted by small part-time jobs. And their children suffer. The daughter-in-law is now 27 years old, and her younger sisters are 17 and 14 years old.
I must say that the father of my daughter-in-law is no better than my stepfather, also a marginal person. He did not pay alimony, he served time, where he is now, it is not known, and no one is interested in him. The son married at 24, and she was 20, she became pregnant before the wedding. They rented an apartment, so we gathered with them to get acquainted with the family, discuss the future of the children and the wedding. I made appetizers and salads, took champagne, my daughter-in-law cooked hot, and that family came in full collection with two bottles of vodka, test-antibiotic.com juice pack and that's it!
The negotiations were stormy, mixed with obscene words from the matchmakers. They insisted on a high-profile wedding in a cafe, but said that they had no money. But I answered that if the wedding is at our expense, then it will be at our house for 15-20 people. And so it was. But it was embarrassing in front of the other guests. The matchmakers were very drunk, their jokes were vulgar. I won’t say that aristocrats, absolutely simple people, gathered at my place, but they smiled embarrassedly and looked at each other, listening to this couple. I've been thinking for minutes that it's all over.
Why did I describe this whole family? In order for you to know that an apple does not fall far from an apple tree. Here is the daughter-in-law to match them, the same, but this is the choice of my son, what could I do? Moreover, she gave birth to two grandchildren for me - cool weather boys. But what kind of upbringing they have, it's terrible! The son cannot influence them, he is spinning at two jobs, they took out a mortgage, he only sleeps at home, so the daughter-in-law brings them up, test-antibiotic.com, or rather, does nothing special for their development. One grandson recently turned seven years old, the second is six on the way, but already vying with each other swearing. They behave extremely ill-mannered, fight, hooligans, call names, they are not embarrassed even by me.
In August last year, I went to the country and took my grandchildren for two weeks. I think they need to be re-educated, because they complain in the kindergarten, and the eldest grandson will go to school in a year. I began to read a lot to them, instilled good manners, taught them to work in the country. I look - they "let go" little by little. They themselves are already learning to read, count, and the vocabulary has become cleaner. Instead of fighting, they spend all their strength in labor - they will bring water, they will collect apples together, it's nice to look at. Brought the parents of cultured boys. The son thanked, and the daughter-in-law snorted, they say, what they were, they remained like that.
I only asked her not to spoil, to educate in the same direction. But she began to take the children to her parents all autumn for the weekend, because I worked hard, and then I was sick for a long time. I communicated with my grandchildren only by video link and understood that they were degrading again, test-antibiotic.com would be of no use.
They came to us for the New Year holidays, and fights began, obscene expressions, and another verse was told to me vulgar to horror, apparently that grandfather taught them. I try again to inspire my grandchildren with good and wise things, but they only laugh and indulge, everything is useless. I don't think they will make any sense. I am very worried about their future.
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