The older children decided that the third child in the family is superfluous

My husband and I have two almost adult children. The daughter is seventeen years old, and the son will soon turn sixteen. The problems in communicating with them started just recently when we told them that we would have anotherchild . When I found out thatpregnant , I was immediately very upset, but after consulting with my husband, we decided to keep the child. We love children and another one wouldn't hurt us.

They thought that the children were already adults, in a few years they would already have their own families and their ownlife , and we will be left alone. We were even glad that this happened and that in old age we would not be alone. Now I had to somehow tell the children about this.

Unexpectedly for us, the children took this news very aggressively, especiallydaughter . Said she didn't need anybrother , neithersister and that she is ashamed of us. This made me very upset and sad, I never thought that my daughter was growing up selfish.

We didn't make bad money, so money wasn't the problem. It’s just that the children think we are already old, but my husband and I are not yet forty years old. They hoped that when the baby was born they would change their ways.attitude and will love him.

But things only got worse. My daughter didn’t talk to me right away, and then she started being rude and calling me names. I didn’t tell my husband anything, so as not to completely discord the family.

Over time, my son got used to having a little brother and even began to help me. When I cried from resentment, he came up to me, calmed me down, took the child and went for a walk with him so that I could rest.

I love all my children equally, but I still feel guilty about what happened. We used to be friendlyfamily or so it only seemed to me until I had to prove it in practice.

I don’t hold any grudges or grudges against my children, and I hope that when my daughter has her own family, she will change her attitude towards me. In the meantime, it’s very difficult for me to worry about all this.