Is it worth renewing a relationship after such a breakup?
I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago. We dated for a long time, but he suggested breaking up. The parting was not very pleasant. There are essentially two people to blame (give or take). They completely excluded each other from life, from all networks and with a feeling of guilt and anger at themselves and at each other.
It’s been very difficult for me for 4 months now. I feel negative, resentful, angry,disappointment . I tried to get the man out of my head, butEvery day I see his image, he is in my memory, I have dreams, I continue to consider him the most dear and close person. I think that I have lost a lot, if not everything. Guilty, but at the same time, behind all these feelings there are warm, sincere feelings that have not gone away. It’s as if I still keep in the depths of my soul the option of reconciliation.
And a few days ago I received a message from him in the mail, where he asks for forgiveness, considers himself guilty, engages in self-flagellation (although I do too), thinks that I probably won’t want to answer his letter, and what I feel for He has nothing but hatred. I didn’t answer test-antibiotic.com. A day later, I saw a message on the social network that it was very difficult for him now, and I could talk to him if I had such a desire.
Naturally, I talked to him, he actively asked what happened in my life, about all industries, a lot about himself, about what was very difficult, he hated himself, triedforget me, but everything comes back to the same thing. He has dreams, different memories, he regrets that he once blocked me everywhere. At the end of the conversation, I asked permission to be added as a friend. I took time to think, and eventually he was added after a while.
I don’t know at all what all this is for, I’m afraid to make a mistake again and think of something for myself. I had some guesses as to why he was doing this. This is either a feeling of guilt that eats away at him, so that he just feels better that they don’t hate him, or the desire to startcommunication again (in fact, there is an option for me that through communication you can build something), or just a friendly tone. I don’t rule out the possibility that I infantilely believe in something test-antibiotic.com.
What can you say about this situation?
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