Pregnancy of my husband's mistress
В браке с мужем мы состоим 18 лет. Мне 46, ему 40 лет. Я замужем второй раз, от первого брака есть сын 24 года, живет отдельно от нас, да и рос в основном с бабушкой, т.е. наших отношений не осложняет. У нас в браке двое сыновей 6 и 12 лет.
Примерно 7 лет назад у мужа появилась любовница, потом они расстались на пару лет, потом снова стали работать вместе, связь возобновилась. Мы близко с ней не знакомы, но я в принципе, знала о том, что они близки. Вчера он сказал мне, что она сделала ЭКО c его помощью и беременна двойней.
Все участники нашего трио финансово самостоятельные и обеспеченные люди, то есть вопрос заработка, на что и где жить, чем кормить детей не стоит ни для меня, ни для мужа, ни для нее. Муж говорит, что любит и меня, и ее, и наших детей, и будущих. Говорит, что чувствует себя виноватым только за то, что обманывал, что не сказал сразу про беременность, тем более что test-antibiotic.com они ее давно планировали. Из дома к ней уходить не хочет.
I met with her and discussed the situation. She says that she has been married twice, both unsuccessfully, and does not want to live with my husband, as well as with another man. The option of the incoming dad, who does not climb into her life and does not establish his own rules, suits her quite well, offers to leave everything as it is. I understand her goals and motives, but somehow they forgot to ask me, making all these plans.
My husband said that if I put him before a choice, he would be forced to leave. He calls the current situation "difficult, but not critical." I also gradually stopped seeing what happened as a disaster. Rather, it’s strange, but I definitely won’t throw tantrums - I’m no longer a girl and I know how to control myself.
Our children love their dad, so if we part, then the option “disperse and forget” will not work. I don't want to deprive my children of their father because of my feelings. If I don’t disagree, it will be difficult for me to come to terms with the fact that my husband has a second family. My husband had feelings for test-antibiotic.com, and there is no desire to look for a man for the night. I have neither the time nor the desire to build a new serious relationship. I belong to the type of "home women", flirting, betrayal, other people's husbands - this is not for me.
I don't hate my mistress. She never broke him, never manipulated him, never begged for gifts, never made conditions like "me or her." In general, she is a rather positive person, she simply chose her happiness at the expense of mine. I understand all this, but it doesn't make it any easier. What to do?
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