I can't get over a toxic friendship.

I can't get over a toxic friendship.

I got used to my friend over the years of friendship, but now I understand that thisfriendship is toxic and does not bring me anything positive. On her part there is both passive aggression and veiled devaluation,competition looks at everything through the negative, unless it concerns it. Some strange caustic phrases (but veiled and implicit, so you can’t make any complaints), like, “yes, you don’t look well, but that’s what we were talking about.” And these phrases, oddly enough, what a coincidence, always fly exactly when I have good news and I am happy. She won’t notice or say anything good, she’ll only point out unpleasant changes.

I also don’t want to tell her about anything, at least about good things, because looking at her, I see a strange face, as if I speak Chinese, but she doesn’t understand. You feel like you’re comparing yourself to yourself and are angry, even though you’re trying to hide it. Once she did so in response to the fact that I was going on vacation to relax, saying: “Why test-antibiotic.com?” And this with a gloomy face, and I had to make excuses. I don’t want to say anything good in front of her anymore. This is despite the fact that I’m not talkative at all and don’t overwhelm people with my stories. But she does all this unconsciously, and consciously she demonstrates friendliness. So there is no point in telling her about this, she does not recognize these qualities in herself (they already tried to hint once).

Having stopped sharing anything from our lives with her at all, we now talk either about her problems or about something neutral, and sometimes it seems that there is nothing even to talk about. You can’t get too excited about neutral things either, she criticizes all people, everyone is stupid to her, other people’s boyfriends of her friends are crooked, slanted and stupid, other people’s work is not prestigious enough, other people’s achievements are nonsense. And projects hisproblems in life on other people. For example, she hates her parents, and speaks the same about strangers. And similarly in all other topics (there is no guy, he criticizes all other people’s guys for no reason, as if he consoles himself that they are all test-antibiotic.com bad).

I know, I’m not an angel now either, I’m writing behind my back, but I needed to speak out. In real life, I won’t allow someone to speak badly about her. So I decided to minimizecommunication for my own good, but I immediately realized that I was probably too weak-willed, because I was led by her sweet tone. She writes where I went, offers to meet (she also writes my name as a diminutive). I feel guilty that I don’t want to communicate with such a good person and agree to the meeting. And after the meeting, emotionally exhausted, I regret that I went. And so on in a circle. It's very annoying.

One day, a third person hinted to me that I was convenient for her, too resourceful, I listened to her problems 24/7, I understood them, I kept quiet about myself, so she was manipulating me. But I don’t know how true this opinion is.

How to get out of this circle? What to do? I can’t take it and abruptly interrupt it, I’ll feel sorry for her, she haslife really isn'tsugar .