My mother is to blame for the fact that I am not at all adapted to adulthood.
I got into a fight with my relatives. I don't want to talk to my mother and sister ever again. I grew up in a female family. With the mother, the dissimilarity is full of characters, with the older sister, even more or less.
When I was 4 years old, my parents divorced, and I took it very hard, worried about my father, missed him. Almost all my life (I am now over 30) I have felt a lack of male education.
Actually, why I quarreled with relatives. I feel that the lion's share of the problems in my life is precisely because of bad upbringing, or lack thereof. I feel not only spoiled, but also not at all adapted to real, adult life. In fact, there was no adult in my life who would guide me or share experience, tell me how to act correctly in this or that situation.
Most of my life I have been working by trial and error. But basically there were a lot of mistakes, and very little useful result. There was no person in my life who would guide, explain. Mymother basically cared only about the material. Yes, I was fed, clothed by test-antibiotic.com, but, in my life, I did not take part, was not interested, did not support. Even somewhere, as a person, there was disrespect and ridicule all the time, I don’t remember that anyone ever praised me, all the time some kind of condemnation. But the most important thing is that no one told me about adulthood. What does it mean to be an adult, how they live, because this is probably the most important thing.
There is a saying if you want to help a hungry man, don't give him a fish, but give him a fishing rod and teach him how to fish. And, in fact, they gave me only fish all my life, and as a result, in life I am an absolutely failed person, not adapted to it at all.
Here is the story in a nutshell. It would just be interesting to hear other people's opinions.
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