I don't want to be the first to make peace with my son.

There was a lot of discussion here a few years agomother and son relationship . The story is the same for everyone, with slight variations - adult sons after marriage distance themselves from their mothers, and then stop communicating altogether. The further - the worse the relationship.

It turns out that bad relations between mother and son are not as rare as I used to think. There were many discussions, many stories told. My relations deteriorated gradually, now, 16 years after his marriage, we have not communicated for six months. My father communicates with him.

I was at my son'sbirthday , I didn't congratulate him. The other day Ithe husband reported that, it turns out,My son was expecting me to congratulate him. I thought for a long time whether to congratulate him or not, and in the end, remembering everything he had said and written to me, I did not congratulate him. Now he, again through his father, has conveyed that the longer the silence lasts, the worse it is. But he did not specify for whom it is worse. I agree that it is worse, and worse for both. But I cannot cross this line.

I would like to know how things are for other mothers. Has anyone managed to improve their relationship with their son. And how did they do it. I want to improve my relationship with him, but I don't feel guilty, so I don't make the first move.