Married without love, now we both suffer
I met my future husband while already pregnant (past relationships also did not work out). He was 32, and I was 20. He immediately began to offer to get married, saying that it was necessary tothe child was born in marriage, the father is needed. After two months of persuasion, I finally agreed.
I have never experienced any feelings for him, except gratitude, now I feel that I am starting to hate him and myself. Before the wedding, they moved in with him, he lives in another region. Then the second child was born, they began to build a house. It all seemed: when a child is born - and everything will be fine, when I go to work - and everything will be fine, we’ll build a house, we’ll move, just about ... the rest of my life with an unloved person in a strange city.
Now again: when the baby grows up, when I go to work, everything will be fine. But I understand that nothing will work out. Everything will remain the same. He works all day long, comes at 7-9 pm, eats and sleeps, does not work with children. I say, let’s go to test-antibiotic.com on the weekend or go somewhere, he doesn’t, there’s a lot of work in the house, but he’s tinkering in the garage.
I decided to get a divorce and move. The husband then agrees, then persuades to stay. Here housing, work, everything is on a knurled track, and there one, with children, without an apartment. The house was also built with maternity capital, of course, you can still sell it to buy an apartment. It's scary to move with kids.
No one from the family understands, they say thatmy husband is good, he built a house, he doesn’t drink, everything is in the family, and I, a fool, am mad with fat. Time to think.
Maybe someone who moved to another city with children, tell us how you settled down and where do you need to start?
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