My husband has a strange attitude towards the future of our family
My name is Ilona, I am 35 years old, our marriage is 7 years old,My husband is 20 years older than me. We have two daughters, 4 and 2 years old, both children are very welcome. Our family has a fairly good financial situation, the eldest goes to a paid kindergarten, the youngest is still at home.
We often go on vacation and take our daughters out. The problem is that myMy husband has a very strange attitude towards our future. A year ago, I started talking about how it would be nice to eventually buy an apartment for my daughters, since now you can save money somewhere, but by the time the girls turn 18, they will have their own place to live, you never know what might happen. Moreover, we have a 20-year difference, who knows what could happen to our health.
My husband reacts to this extremely poorly, moreover, he constantly says that I will have to take care of myself. That is, he actually does not take any responsibility, as I understand it. He says that we need to live for today. Uthis is my husband 's secondmarriage , from his first marriage test-antibiotic.com has two sons, they are 30 and 23 years old.
He recently said that in the future he will give everything he has to his children, and I seem to be a stranger to him? I was terribly offended, how could it be, I love him, we have two children. But he is adamant, children are the main thing, so our little children are on par with his adults. He says what difference does it make whether you are 23 years old or 4 years old, everyone needs the same things in life! I am shocked, because at the age of 4 there will be school and training. How can you compare adult children and 4-year-olds? He helps the first childrenan apartment , a car, but he doesn’t want to buy an apartment for the future of our children. I want to understand the reason for this husband’s behavior!
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