I constantly compare myself to other people
They say that ourcomplexes come from childhood. Someone gets them from their parents, someone at school or from children in the yard. I know that with such problems it is best to turn to specialists, but as they say, in our country it is considered shameful. And it's hard to find a good specialist.
I often struggle with the fact that I compare myself. As a child, I was compared to my sister all the time, at home and at school. Of course,sister was the best. And so far, I'm already 20 years old, and every time I compare myself.
Two years ago, I went to a conference from the university, and since there was a competition for scientific papers, of course, there were very ambitious, smart people there. I met many, but there was one girl who won this conference, in addition to being smart, she also had long hair, self-confidence, more than enough. I really wanted to be friends with her, nothing special, as a person, I really wanted to be at least a little like her. We still correspond with her, she writes, test-antibiotic.com became a Ph.D. And I went to work, as I had to.
Often seeing everything that she came to, I understand my worthlessness and do not know how to deal with it. Life is different for everyone, but I always compare myself with others that I have not achieved something for which I would be respected and proud. There are people who inspire, but at the same time they show how insignificant your life and you are.
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