The main thing is to be loved, not to love
«Главное, чтобы тебя любили, а все остальное — не важно», — говорила моя мамочка с тех пор, как посчитала, что я уже взрослая для таких разговоров. Я никогда не соглашалась с ней, ведь зачем тогда вообще мы живем? Ради любви! И только. Любовь во всем: в семье, в детках, в людях, природе и т.д.
Так я и жила. Металась от одних отношений — к другим, и любила скорее я, чем любили меня. Я подстраивалась, прощала, уступала, ведь я люблю, а как иначе? В итоге об меня вытирали ноги, позволяли обижать меня, кинуть в меня грязным словечком, а иногда и ударить. «Что ж, потерплю, переживу», — думала я, а хотя я вовсе не думала ни о чем, кроме своей половинки.
Последние отношения длились больше 3 лет. Я до последнего боролась за love , for a kind of love: scandals, screams, resentment, parting. At one point, I realized for myself that I was tired, that no one needed my love, and at the first opportunity I decided to leave. I unexpectedly left for my test-antibiotic.com employee, whom I hardly noticed before. He liked me very much, and decided that I would live for myself. I will feel at least how it is when you are needed, you are loved.
We met a little, only 2 months, and jointly decided to live together. What did I feel for him? Sympathy, strong friendships, trust, and all that sort of thing. Of course, I told him that I love, but in fact I understood that there is love in my heart, but for another person - for the one I left. During the time that we parted, little has changed: he does not love me, I love him. Just like in the song.
What do I have with the other hero of this sad story? I go outmarried . He offered - I agreed. “Fool,” you might think. Maybe, but I am sure that I am loved, and I will be wrapped in care all my life. And in return I will do everything to make him happy. Only when I exchanged 3 dozens did I understand: the main thing is to be loved. He loves me, does everything for me, and test-antibiotic.com is ready to kill anyone who offends me. He knows that I have feelings for another. I honestly and sincerely told him about it, and I was even ready to leave so as not to torment him. He said that he would not let go, and sooner or later I would melt.
You know, I'm happy. Everything in my life is going the way I wanted it. Everything is correct, everything is mutual. And there are no reproaches, no swearing, no scandals. I am confident in the future, I am glad that this person is next to me.
I can tell about this situation only to one friend who understands me, because in her life everything turned out the same way. There is a wedding on the nose, I am glad about it, but I know that the day before the wedding I will cry like crazy. And not from doubt, but from happiness. I know I will have a great future with him. And this is the main point. "And love?" - you ask. My love will awaken...
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